The most important things in the world are so simple that we refuse to understand them. We have been programmed in a manner that we think for some thing to be important, it has to be complex.
The fact is that whether complex or simple, difficult or easy, life only takes contemplation to open up.
Love is listening with your full heart. If you want to gain some ones trust, listen to him or her. Listen with your full heart. Thats how you would listen.
Remove all intent to reply while you are listening. Just listen with the intent of understanding, genuine, considerate, true understanding. Put yourself in the person’s shoes and imagine how it would be like to be at his or her place and how would that person shall be feeling right now while he or she is saying all this. Feel the emotions hidden underneath the words.
If for once you truly listen, you would feel connected. You would gain trust previously never felt. You would find a strong bond, that never existed. That’s true listening. That’s love!
Delaying gratification means to delay the pleasure for a higher reward or a higher destiny we believe in. For that we have to have a higher cause; a direction or a destiny which we want to achieve.
It is a fact that people with aimless lives are not able to exercise delaying gratifications and they can fall for any thing that brings instant joy to their five senses. We face countless situations in our daily life, where we have to delay our gratification. There always exists a deferred achievement and an instant gratification for every emotion we feel.
The gratification for anger for example is to take it out, immediately, instantly, with all the frustration on the person whom you think is responsible. Yet there is a higher achievement reward if we chose to delay our bursting out. It is a high mutual trust, respect and strengthened bond between us and the person involved. The gratification for a news paper reading is that no one disturbs us but if our 4 year old kid comes to us with a drawing book, we have to delay our gratification and attend to the child. For a higher reward of bond, love and value
What we give becomes ours for eternity !
A hand searches some thing in the mudded floor of a mine. A stone rolls itself towards the palm. The hand picks it up and takes off mud from it. Raises it to see in the sun light. A diamond is born.
It is uncut. Potentially a gem, but presently a stone.
It lets itself be cut and cut again. It lets itself be exposed to the several hundred cuts and hits by the gem cutter.
Its shine depends on its willingness to expose itself for the cuts.
Believe yourself to be a potential gem, but currently a stone. Be willing to offer yourself to be exposes to the tests and cuts of time. Do not be afraid or hesitant for that. Not for a single moment.
In works of theology I have seen saints and prophets thanking God in fact , whenever they were put to a test. They knew it was another cut by a super hand to transform them into a gem.
This understanding and willingness is an act of love!
Its high shopping time and we all are caught in the frenzy of buying gifts. Yes its wonderful to buy some one some a gift. Wonderful to receive it and more wonderful to give.
There is only one thing wrong with the gifts: they are things.
Yet when we die, all we remember is experiences, not things.
This christmas or Eid or Diwali try to give some one an experience.
Take your spouse for a special drive or place she has been longing for.
Take your children near a railway track and see their faces gleam when the locomotive passes nearby.
Go out with a friend to take photographs of yellowing autumn trees.
Give your mother a foot massage for an hour. Go to a hill with a friend and celebrate his birthday up there.
Create ideas for yourself. There are millions of them.
Give gifts of experiences, thats what we truly remember only.
You may have already begun to realize a very subtle fact: often, the best times we enjoy ourselves are when we are in our moments of silence !
The recent earth quake in Japan 14:46 Tokyo Time on March 11, 2011 shifted Earth’s axis by 10 inches. It took a huge jolt of 8.9 magnitude to do that.
In the late hours of the night, all I do listen is the click click of my key board. The past few years seem to be like a dream. I wonder if they ever existed in reality. I wonder if they ever were a part of real time.
I look back into the past in the silence of these hours and I feel I am no more what I used to be. I have gone through the pains, the woes, the joys, the pleasures, the winnings and the losses and they all have made me what I am.
I am changed and yet I find the most inner deep core has remain unchanged, unaltered by any of the event, harsh or smooth. That inner core is what I really am.
For some a jolt or an event of much less magnitude shifts their core. This shift is often not controlled but involuntary and thus often not very benevolent.
For some, rather a few, it takes only a huge event to shift their inner core.
For some more, who are much rare, nothing is able to shift their inner core. They are determined and have an attitude of no matter what.
Their act of not allowing their inner core to shift is a deliberate act, requiring wisdom, poise, self discipline and a commitment to stay what they are. This is an act of love!
Our conquest for happiness is torn apart between our two selves. A part of us remembers things from the past and a part of us is involved in experiencing the current moment.
Whether we are happy in our life or we are happy about our life as what happened are two different questions. The former is related to the current experience and the later to our memory.
We keep on toggling between experience and memory.
We keep on comparing the two. We go to a dinner. We are having an excellent food, yet a part of us some where in our mind tells us: hey, last dinner was superb. We don’t have that fudge in desert tonight. And we feel unhappy, very slightly, in a very subtle manner, but we feel that way.
I have learnt that people chosen to be saints had one common trait among them: all of them had an intrinsic ability to love after losing love, to love after having seen everything around them shattered,to love after being cheated, to love after they thought they could not love any more and to love after they had been angry and disappointed and had become bitter, they were people of love!
To love like this requires ultimate faith. If you want to know whether you are a person of faith, try to find out your ability to love under any or all circumstances, for to love like this is purely divine.
And you can touch divine only by acting like one!