Tools Of Love: Balancing

The Fourth Tool:

Keeping  a balance. We tend to lose balance at times. We cannot judge how much time we are supposed to give to our work and to our kids. We lose how much important people are some times as compared to the new promises made to keep a routine and that routine is broken by an unannounced guest.

We have to know how to keep the balance. We have to be a good athelete, a good learner / teacher, a good monk and a good farmer at the same time.

We have to keep a balance between work and personal life.

We have to keep a balance between physical fitness,  mental and spiritual growth, contribution and financial activities or professional / business life.

Keeping the balance involves wise judgment, which at times becomes quite painful.

Balancing also means to discipline ourselves before we try to discipline our children, subordinates or our spouse. We find our child misbehaving in front of our guests and we feel threatened at our up bringing. So we try to discipline her /him through scolding, lure or threat of being left alone. The act of disciplining has to be disciplined itself. That is called balancing.

Keeping a balance when to allow your son a toy and when not involves a great deal of wisdom. This is often painful. Our willingness to go through this pain is a sign of true love. Keeping a balance is the fourth tool, through which we exercise love !

Step to do:

Stop considering your life into separate compartments of home, office, social or sport activity.

Rather decide to give equal time to each activity, daily. Though no matter how small the time slot may be.

Decide to take care of your health, walk back home if possible or get off the car 2 miles away and walk the distance. Decide to spend half an hour with your kids, just you and your kids. Spend time to read. Spend time in silence. Daily for ten minutes or fifteen.

Decide to be representing balance and do that. Balance out life and your roles through time. Write your roles and time spent against each role per week and balance that.

Yesss ! that’s hard work. All this is effortful, but who said it wasn’t ? But it is worth the effort.

(This article has been inspired by the work of Dr. Scott Peck )